FICKLE FRIENDS BY KRISTEN WEIR

“Frenemies”

Further readings...

Research found that the ambivalent relationship can affect your health negatively. When the subjects are communicating with their ambivalent friends, the blood pressure readings were typically higher. In other words, their blood pressure will increase if they meet the person that they dislike but could not avoid from seeing them especially when they belong to the same groups and environment.

From this reading, I can see that the frenemies give a lot of bad effect, but why do people keep them?. As for my opinion, there must be some reason why do they still trying hard to keep this kind of relationship although it is hurt. Maybe they do not want to lose their precious friend or maybe they have another intention. The person who does not want to give up on this relationship must be a very great person because they are able to ignore or hide their own feeling.

My blood type is B, and people said that type B person tend to care only about their own business. They do not care about what happen in their surrounding. Do not misunderstand, because this does not mean that we don’t care about people. We just do not want to interfere with others business. Although most of us have this type of behaviour, we are still a normal person with normal feelings. We also can feel hurt although we tend to smile when conflict occurs because SMILE is the best cure. Frenemies should not exist because every friendship has to begin with a sincere heart. Accept your friend weakness and remember that no one’s perfect in this world.

“COPING WITH FRENEMIES”

If you still want to keep this ambivalent relationship, it’s not a problem anymore because there is a method to get through this easily. Firstly, you must think positive. Second, aware with their weakness that will affect your progress so you can get rid of it later. The best solution is to “start with controlling your own behaviour and being the kind of friend you’d want others to be”-Holt Lunstad.

~having multiple of friends can create a lot of invention to our self and the environment~

A Gift of a Friends~

Sometimes you feel you’ll be fine by yourself,

Cause a dream is a wish when you made all alone,

It’s easy to feel like you don’t need help,

But it’s harder to walk on your own,

You’ll change inside when you realize.

~LET'S CREATE THE MIRACLES TOGETHER~

~leny, tira, fynn, bahirah, fae, shira, alya, julia, julai, ayeen, farra, iqa~ 

<3 lot's of love..

ARE YOU A ROMANTIC OR A LIBERTINE...? BY M. SCOTT PECK, M. D

Dr. M. Scott Peck is a world renowned psychiatrist who focuses his work on reassessing certain human conduct in social interaction. This article is from his bestselling book, “The Road Less Travelled” as it appeared in women’s magazine, Self. This excerpt gives a very deep meaning to the readers since it contains a lot of important information to us. This situation often run through our mind, ‘Are you a romantic or a libertine’? We tend to ask this question to our self but did we get the right answer?.

‘LOVE’....

WHAT IS LOVE?

This words can gives different meaning for each people and often gives the positive views towards us. Ask yourself, what is the function of this word to  you? Happiness? Laughter? Care?.. is that all?. That is what I think of the words ‘LOVE’, but the truth is not as beautiful as it is. There are so many things that contains in that words. What I’m trying to say is, love begins with both side, the positive and the negative. We are too naive if we just think of the joyfulness of love.

LOVE IS A PARADOX

Love contains the mix feelings of hatred and resentment or unusual feeling that human beings have at the same time. We can detect ‘love’ by its symptoms such as jealousy, worry (a feeling of affection and resentment) and desire to be with the whom you loved.

STRATEGY

Everything in this world needs a very perfect plan so it will work out. This is what girls really loves, and the strategies to make them fall for you, I create my own strategy (just for fun):

©       Flowers...(girls really love flowers)..except she’s allergic to them. Make sure you check it.

©       Surprise...do something official that they can bragged about it.

©       Care...make sure that you always updated about her health condition, or she will think that you are not gentlemen and you never care. At the same time, don not overdo it (it bothers much).

©       The most important thing is..sincere, you must make sure that she knows that you are sincere. Make her feel that she is precious to you.

All this while, I’ve been talking about love. Actually I’m not an expert with this thing since I don’t have a boyfriend. This article shows me that how people can be in love and what are their true perceptions towards ‘LOVE’. Make sure that you will never regret and appreciate and cherish it forever in your heart.  

   

  

FICKLE FRIENDS BY KIRSTEN WEIR

When you heard the words ‘friends’, what thoughts that runs through your mind?. What memories that you remember with them? Happy or sad? Happiness or disaster?. Well, it depends on someone’s experience. Before, I’m not actually a cheerful person. It is hard for me to open my heart to my friends. It is also hard for me to open my mouth or we can say that I’m afraid to socialize with people. That is my biggest problem.  Sounds unbelievable, but that is the truth. After I joined this course, it changes me into a different person (in positive side) and now I got a lot of friends. Do you think by having a lot of friend can make your life perfect? think about the quality, not quantity.

I’m attracted with the first paragraph of this article that says ‘HAVE YOU EVER had a friend who makes plans to hang out but cancels when a better offer comes along? Or a buddy who helped you through a bad breakup, then flirted with your ex? To scientists, these problematic pals are known as ambivalent friends, or we can just call them ‘frenemies’. I think this is the combination of the words friend and enemies. I actually never had this kind of experience, but I’ve heard that from my friends. It happens to a lot of people and it is a common thing that happens to every human beings. Someone that tells those things never happen in his or her life might just don’t realize it yet. I think I’m in the same situation as them.

FRENEMIES=BACKSTABBER

We can’t trust everyone in this world. That is what everyone told me to do. As for my opinion, you can give your trust to that particular person, but you can not give your 100 percent trust to them. This is not because of the behaviour of people that can’t be trusted, but it can prevent you from hurting yourself. If you give your full trust to people, what if in the future they betray your trust?. It will surely hurt you deeply and you will refuse to trust the others again. It is very dangerous for yourself if you lose your trust to people because it will change your perception towards others. You will tend to think negatively towards others and avoid from cooperating or socialize with people.

 

  

~let us cherish this moment forever~

DARK ANGEL